This is really just a quick update as to what is going on.
Surrogacy front: I have received my FINAL DRAFT of the contract and was able to notarize it...I AM OFFICIALLY A SURROGATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I also have to go in on the 23rd to get my yearly STD testing before we can start with the clinic.
My blood work did come back and I am clear on everything except one thing. its to chicken pox, it came back as unclear if I am immune to it or not. Just to let you all know I have been vaccinated when I was little and NEVER gotten them. I think I was even exposed at one time. anyway we decided to NOT get the vaccine. There are some papers that need to be signed, but the clinic is NOT returning my calls or Katrina's. Katrina and John still need to sign the contract. I am VERY WORRIED that something won't be done in time and it will push it back another month. I mean if it happens, it happens. We wanted to start up this month (Aug.) but hey nothing you can do. OH! We also decided that since I am good and fertile and John has some pretty awesome swimmers (sorry TMI for some) that it would be best to try a couple all natural (meaning no fertility meds) the first couple times to see what happens. I was so excited to get pregnant on the first try, but I am having doubts...I mean I am good but I don't think i am THAT GOOD!
Home front: We are planning our first family camping trip in an RV. We are leaving on the 29th going to the Red Woods, Vortex, Wild Life Safari, and a couple other places. We will be gone until the 3rd and even recruited my mom and Emma! so this will actually be our first trip as a family!
Clay is almost done with OT! I am very worried because I am very busy at home that I honestly don't have an hour everyday to work with him on his Sensory. We can make it work! Keven is in an intense PCIT 14 week program that is mother friggen working!!!! We are also trying to get the older 2 in therapy for their issues that they are struggling with already at such a young age. Let's hop around a little more. I am very serious on becoming a photographer. I love my camera, I just really need some new lenses and filters. I am also wanting to sign up for some classes, maybe mentor a photographer here in Portland? I LOVE PORTALNDIA!!!!
That is it for now...keep checking back
Toodles Bessy
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Friday, August 10, 2012
Drum Roll Please.
Today we start the day off at 4am. I went to sleep around 11ish and woke up at 2 thinking i am NEVER going to get any sleep. Finally fell asleep and woke up at 4am. (so far today is just annoying) I’m up and getting ready, Cleaning up what is left of the dishes from last nights BBQ. Being as loud as I could Skip says. Finished packing and doing some laundry. Yes my house wife duties NEVER end. My grandma showed up around 4:30, and at that point i am just ready to leave so i can take a 4 hour nap! headed to the airport that early we have the road to our selves. (on that note traffic blows) We get to airport, I check my not so light bag and move on the the horrific line of security. I say my good-byes to my granny as she makes her way to work. (she also works at the airport) after security (that wasn’t actually that long) I make a B-line to Starbucks for my Venti, Hot Skinny Cinnamon dolche latte. (ahhhh finally time to wake up, thank you coffee!) I arrive at Gate C13 take a seat for a short while. Text the most important people in my life to say I love them.
Haven't made it to Chicago yet. But from what I can tell I am somewhere over Montana based on mountains of nothing and it is only 8:30am. Lets try this nap thing again because I know I am going to need it!
Fast forward a couple of days. This trip was really all about the business. We we’re on a mission to find a clinic and that is just what we did. It was hard and a ton of number crunching but in the end we went with the best clinic for us. Today I had my saline ultrasound and turns out I have a wonderful uterus. I am totally ready to conceive this baby. We also did some blood work to make sure I don't have anyy of STD’s and some crazy African disease. Ohhh the things the government makes you do in order to get pregnant. I wonder what anybody ever did back in the day to get pregnant and have a family? it truly is amazing how much the government has an influence on the U.S. BUT that is another story for another day. A long story. ANYWAY, I am at the airport as I type this section. Watching all the walks of life that are walking by my little table. Oh yes back story. My flight was late and I would have missed my Vegas flight so I grabbed the last seat on a later, non-stop flight. so here I am, 4 hours early typing what I can think to put in a blog. I am brain dead as of right now, so i am going to grab a beer (maybe) and get back to you on the flight when I can think of something witty and super random to talk about.
Fast forward about a week 8-10-12
Finally getting around to posting my blog. So what we have is the clinic. I really like the clinic but for some reason I feel bad about how much it cost. but again I wasn't really sure what to expect. Things are good and we are hoping to move forward and try our first insm. in Sept......i hope. I have a phone call with Susan today to go over the yet again revised contract info. at this point I am just done with this and ready to sign the contract. I am going to wrap this up. I have a busy day today included a golf thing with Skip and his friend Jason. Any questions feel free to message me or leave in a comment.
Toodles
Bessy
Haven't made it to Chicago yet. But from what I can tell I am somewhere over Montana based on mountains of nothing and it is only 8:30am. Lets try this nap thing again because I know I am going to need it!
Fast forward a couple of days. This trip was really all about the business. We we’re on a mission to find a clinic and that is just what we did. It was hard and a ton of number crunching but in the end we went with the best clinic for us. Today I had my saline ultrasound and turns out I have a wonderful uterus. I am totally ready to conceive this baby. We also did some blood work to make sure I don't have anyy of STD’s and some crazy African disease. Ohhh the things the government makes you do in order to get pregnant. I wonder what anybody ever did back in the day to get pregnant and have a family? it truly is amazing how much the government has an influence on the U.S. BUT that is another story for another day. A long story. ANYWAY, I am at the airport as I type this section. Watching all the walks of life that are walking by my little table. Oh yes back story. My flight was late and I would have missed my Vegas flight so I grabbed the last seat on a later, non-stop flight. so here I am, 4 hours early typing what I can think to put in a blog. I am brain dead as of right now, so i am going to grab a beer (maybe) and get back to you on the flight when I can think of something witty and super random to talk about.
Fast forward about a week 8-10-12
Finally getting around to posting my blog. So what we have is the clinic. I really like the clinic but for some reason I feel bad about how much it cost. but again I wasn't really sure what to expect. Things are good and we are hoping to move forward and try our first insm. in Sept......i hope. I have a phone call with Susan today to go over the yet again revised contract info. at this point I am just done with this and ready to sign the contract. I am going to wrap this up. I have a busy day today included a golf thing with Skip and his friend Jason. Any questions feel free to message me or leave in a comment.
Toodles
Bessy
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Quick updates as of 7-26-2012
Today is a really good day in our house. Susan called me to finish up our contract. It was a full 54 pages I agreed on everything except one section, that I am 100% against and not to say much it is NOT to be induced period, not from Katrina and John or even me. the only reason is if my life or the baby's life is in danger. I am also so happy that Katrina and John agree and support me on having my all natural birth. I just hope they can handle me during labor? I have my life insurance and health insurance in place. We have our first clinic appointment on the 30th of July!!! We are all hoping that everything will go as planned and we will get our first insemination mid Aug. It is officially 2 days before I am kid free for 6 days (even tho I will miss them so much and probably be Skyping a bunch).
Ok now moving on to daily life-
Lexi's birthday was today. 11 going on 16! she was greeted with flowers and a Moonstruck candy bar. She chose to have German Pancakes for breakfast. I was not able to eat any as I had a parent meeting with Keven's therapist. For dinner she chose to have a mini Thanksgiving dinner. Around dinner my mom FINALLY came back home (with Lea and Emma) to some of you that dont know my mom went on a month long trip to Texas. Somewhere in the process Lea decided to move to Oregon. That is wonderful because it seems as if my mom is in a good place and happy again. Emma was in Utah for about a month also.
SO, I have about 2 days left and I am still in the process of packing and making sure I have everything in order. I will miss my hunny and kids to death but I know I am doing this for all the right reason's. Katrina and John will make the BEST parents and I am so thankful that we matched and are acutally doing this.
Toodles,
Bessy
Ok now moving on to daily life-
Lexi's birthday was today. 11 going on 16! she was greeted with flowers and a Moonstruck candy bar. She chose to have German Pancakes for breakfast. I was not able to eat any as I had a parent meeting with Keven's therapist. For dinner she chose to have a mini Thanksgiving dinner. Around dinner my mom FINALLY came back home (with Lea and Emma) to some of you that dont know my mom went on a month long trip to Texas. Somewhere in the process Lea decided to move to Oregon. That is wonderful because it seems as if my mom is in a good place and happy again. Emma was in Utah for about a month also.
SO, I have about 2 days left and I am still in the process of packing and making sure I have everything in order. I will miss my hunny and kids to death but I know I am doing this for all the right reason's. Katrina and John will make the BEST parents and I am so thankful that we matched and are acutally doing this.
Toodles,
Bessy
Friday, July 20, 2012
This is by far the most productive week.
I want to first off say this has nothing to do with the journey. As some of you know my old phone fell in the toilet. I have had a non smart phone as a temporary phone. After researching phones I have decided to go with the new HTC one X. I love it so far. I do have to switch from an apple phone to an Android phone. No complaints here. Ok now let's talk about the journey. It is moving right along. Everybody keep your hands and feet inside of this moving wagon because we are staring to pick up pace. I have some wonderful news from K&J's home, but I'm not sure they would like the world to know so I won't say a word. But just know I am so happy for them that they made the decision they made. On my end I have gotten a midwife lined up and a PCP. Some disappointing news, I am unable to deliver at OHSU as originaly planned. I apparently have to be high risk. And that is ok I would rather not be high risk. Thanks anyway. My lawyer did call me today and said she is finally working on reviewing all 54 pages of the contract and is going to call me on Monday or Tuesday of next week to see what I think about it. Yay moving right along!! And to make things even better. State Farm sent me a letter wanting to set up a time to come to the house to sign me up for life insurance. Today is a great day. We are moving right along and I am so happy that we are getting closer and closer to getting knocked up!!!
Well nigh night everybody.
Bessy
Friday, July 13, 2012
Maybe this is the one?
To start off my mind is going a thousand miles a minute so I might
just ramble or jump all over the page. I'm truly sorry I am just trying
to get a blog out so you all know what is going on.
In order of things that have been going on, I will start off with health insurance. I HAVE BEEN ACCEPTED!!! It is very exciting to me because I am honestly expecting one thing to go wrong and I am not able to give Katrina and John a baby. Yes I know I am being Negative Nancy. My insurance starts on July 15th. and when that happens I will be talking to OHSU and seeing what my options are for delivering there with a midwife. I also need to find a midwife that understands I am a surro and knows what she is dealing with. I totally believe that a woman needs to let her body labor and birth all natural, the way things used to be.
Today, K&J's lawyer should be getting on the final steps of the contract and should be sending it over to K? I don't know the complete details. Just something that was mentioned to me. That is a very good step, because when the contract is signed we can actually start with the clinic. OK, umm where am I at?
Oh! Yes, Clinics. We did have one in mind but it turned out they wanted WAY to much money just for an IUI and some fertility meds. We are on the hunt for another clinic. Keep in mind we would really still like to try in August. After me searching in Oregon, and K searching in Illinois for a clinic,she finally has narrowed it down to 2 clinics. We are still holding out hope that we will try in August. I am flying out on the 29th of July till the 3rd of August to meet with the 2 clinics and see where we stand. I am hoping that the contract will be done by then. We can get started and get pregnant. I have very high expectations for this journey. Don't get me wrong I know some things will come up (like the clinic) but I'm sure within a year K and J will be having a cutie baby of their own (or 2 )
Now moving on to my feelings on everything and just life in general. I have been doing good. Still missing K and J everyday. Clay has started summer school and is doing great. Even though he isn't fully where he should be developmentally he is doing great. Keven is learning how to ride a bike (with training wheels) and is awesome at it. Amelia is sick, getting better and better everyday. Me and Skip desperately need adult time away from the kids but cant seem to find a sitter. Our old ones bailed out on us and finding a new one (preferably a nanny) is not going so well. Skip has Timbers tickets with VIP access I might add, but this momma needs to stay home. :(
I think I covered everything. If not I'm sure I will update later. but before I go I just want to thank everybody following me or checking in to see how things are going. You can also look me up on YouTube under oregonsurromom. I haven't updated that in a while I think I will make a video when I get all pretty today!
Toodles, Bessy
In order of things that have been going on, I will start off with health insurance. I HAVE BEEN ACCEPTED!!! It is very exciting to me because I am honestly expecting one thing to go wrong and I am not able to give Katrina and John a baby. Yes I know I am being Negative Nancy. My insurance starts on July 15th. and when that happens I will be talking to OHSU and seeing what my options are for delivering there with a midwife. I also need to find a midwife that understands I am a surro and knows what she is dealing with. I totally believe that a woman needs to let her body labor and birth all natural, the way things used to be.
Today, K&J's lawyer should be getting on the final steps of the contract and should be sending it over to K? I don't know the complete details. Just something that was mentioned to me. That is a very good step, because when the contract is signed we can actually start with the clinic. OK, umm where am I at?
Oh! Yes, Clinics. We did have one in mind but it turned out they wanted WAY to much money just for an IUI and some fertility meds. We are on the hunt for another clinic. Keep in mind we would really still like to try in August. After me searching in Oregon, and K searching in Illinois for a clinic,she finally has narrowed it down to 2 clinics. We are still holding out hope that we will try in August. I am flying out on the 29th of July till the 3rd of August to meet with the 2 clinics and see where we stand. I am hoping that the contract will be done by then. We can get started and get pregnant. I have very high expectations for this journey. Don't get me wrong I know some things will come up (like the clinic) but I'm sure within a year K and J will be having a cutie baby of their own (or 2 )
Now moving on to my feelings on everything and just life in general. I have been doing good. Still missing K and J everyday. Clay has started summer school and is doing great. Even though he isn't fully where he should be developmentally he is doing great. Keven is learning how to ride a bike (with training wheels) and is awesome at it. Amelia is sick, getting better and better everyday. Me and Skip desperately need adult time away from the kids but cant seem to find a sitter. Our old ones bailed out on us and finding a new one (preferably a nanny) is not going so well. Skip has Timbers tickets with VIP access I might add, but this momma needs to stay home. :(
I think I covered everything. If not I'm sure I will update later. but before I go I just want to thank everybody following me or checking in to see how things are going. You can also look me up on YouTube under oregonsurromom. I haven't updated that in a while I think I will make a video when I get all pretty today!
Toodles, Bessy
Saturday, June 30, 2012
One step closer to being preggers!
Hi Everybody I first off want to say I hope everyone has a Happy 4th of July. I want to explain that from now on i will give you all the updated news. Then my feelings on just things that are going on. First off Katrina and John sent in the funds for the attorney. also very quickly she got the packet (but to my understanding is a book) of questions for the contract. I filled out my questions and E-mailed them back to Katrina A.S.A.P
Sooooo now it is more of a hurry up and wait kind of thing. We are also talking about insurance, I think sometime in the next week we will be signing me up for insurance (At least that is my understanding) Things are moving along, I am thinking maybe we wont have an August IUI but maybe September? I really don't care when we start (but sooner then later is my motto) I would much rather have the paperwork perfect and no gaps then to hurry up and start.
Now here is my feelings on just life and things that are going on.
I am not as emotional as I was in the beginning about missing them and getting things going. I do know that we are all moving as quickly as we can and i know now that Katrina aren't going to dump me when the baby(s) are born (or at least I hope not) I don't miss them as much. I mean i do but I don't have this urge to move in with them anymore. This is becoming so real. Just to think i might be pregnant when Skip and I go on our Mexico trip in November. AHHHHH!
What is going on at home? Well the kids are out for summer break so I usually have 6-8 kids at home at any given moment during the day (lets not even talk about sleepovers) Yes Skip is very lucky to have a day job. HAHA!
OH! before I forget we got a DOG!!!!
His name is Cody. Came from a single parent home that couldn't give him the attention that he deserved. We have had him for 2 days now and couldn't be happier to add him to our family (Yes he is SO MUCH better then a new baby)
See pictures below!
Happy 4th of July Everyone!
Bessy
Sooooo now it is more of a hurry up and wait kind of thing. We are also talking about insurance, I think sometime in the next week we will be signing me up for insurance (At least that is my understanding) Things are moving along, I am thinking maybe we wont have an August IUI but maybe September? I really don't care when we start (but sooner then later is my motto) I would much rather have the paperwork perfect and no gaps then to hurry up and start.
Now here is my feelings on just life and things that are going on.
I am not as emotional as I was in the beginning about missing them and getting things going. I do know that we are all moving as quickly as we can and i know now that Katrina aren't going to dump me when the baby(s) are born (or at least I hope not) I don't miss them as much. I mean i do but I don't have this urge to move in with them anymore. This is becoming so real. Just to think i might be pregnant when Skip and I go on our Mexico trip in November. AHHHHH!
What is going on at home? Well the kids are out for summer break so I usually have 6-8 kids at home at any given moment during the day (lets not even talk about sleepovers) Yes Skip is very lucky to have a day job. HAHA!
OH! before I forget we got a DOG!!!!
His name is Cody. Came from a single parent home that couldn't give him the attention that he deserved. We have had him for 2 days now and couldn't be happier to add him to our family (Yes he is SO MUCH better then a new baby)
See pictures below!
Happy 4th of July Everyone!
Bessy
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Fathers Day!
Today is Fathers Day. Happy Fathers Day! Now that I got that out of the way, I do want to share today's news and how I am feeling. I am so thankful that I have Skip in my life. He is a great dad, not only to his own kids but mine as well. I Have never known my own dad, But I wish he is having a great Fathers Day. Maybe he thinks about me from time to time? EH, who knows? Would it be to disrespectful to make a shout out to my future baby daddy and say Happy Fathers Day? Well I just did. I am hoping that this is his last Fathers Day NOT being a daddy! OK, Lets move on to feelings and the journey progress shall we? How I am feeling? Its been a week since I flew out to Chacaaaago to meet Katrina and John. I am having some issues missing them and not being as close as I would like (Kuddos to you that have IP's far away) I love our contact that we have. I love that we are so close and we are like a very far off family! I am having a hard time expressing my feelings with Skip. I try to share as much as I can with him and make him feel as much as a part of this as I can. He has expressed some very disturbing information with me. The emotional person that I am is taking it the wrong way and almost making me think twice about doing this. At the end of the day this is what is in my heart and this is what I am going to do. OK now on to the actual journey, I'm not quite sure what is going on, on Katrina's end. I know she has an appointment with a RE in about a week. We are also waiting on something to start up with the lawyers to get the contract going. I have all my ducks in a row just waiting on insurance so I can find a midwife. Oh yes sorry to leave you out. I am planning on doing another all natural birth at our leading children's hospital, Dornbechers! So that is my update as of today (6-17-12) Need to get ready for the day.
Talk later
Bessy
Talk later
Bessy
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
This is the start to a wonderful journey!
To introduce myself...
My name is Bessy. I am a first time TS. I am matched with Katrina and John who happen to live 2,103 miles away (or roughly 30 hours) in the far off land of Illinois. We met on a site called surrogatemother.com
I was actually at a point that i stopped looking and was about to give up (for a while) Then Katrina reached out and e-mailed me. She called me a couple days later. I instantly fell in love but didn't want to put my emotions into this at all. As this is how i got hurt before (thanks for that IP's that dumped me) but hey you live and you learn. So I brushed it off and tried to not think about things for a while. OH! i was also talking to so IF's in the process but wanted to give everybody a chance. Katrina and I Skyped and decided to book a ticket for THAT WEEKEND (and thank little baby Jesus that they didn't stuff me in their freezer) over the course of the week i had a ray of emotions. i weighed my pro's and cons of the situation at hand. I cried because i just knew they we're my match! Yet again I didn't want to put my emotions into everything and waited until my weekend was almost over with them. i also typed up a cute little note telling them how much i liked them and at the end it said "YES, I will be your baby momma!!!!" we all cried (except John...MEN!) We are now on the path to getting contracts written up and insurance bought. I am currently tracking my ovulation and we are hoping for a August Pregnancy!!! I do have to say it has been a rough couple of month. I was so ready to just give up and take a break. I am so thankful that they want ME as their baby momma! I couldn't be happier. I truly love my IP's, they will forever be in my heart!
Keep on looking for updates on how my journey is going.
My name is Bessy. I am a first time TS. I am matched with Katrina and John who happen to live 2,103 miles away (or roughly 30 hours) in the far off land of Illinois. We met on a site called surrogatemother.com
I was actually at a point that i stopped looking and was about to give up (for a while) Then Katrina reached out and e-mailed me. She called me a couple days later. I instantly fell in love but didn't want to put my emotions into this at all. As this is how i got hurt before (thanks for that IP's that dumped me) but hey you live and you learn. So I brushed it off and tried to not think about things for a while. OH! i was also talking to so IF's in the process but wanted to give everybody a chance. Katrina and I Skyped and decided to book a ticket for THAT WEEKEND (and thank little baby Jesus that they didn't stuff me in their freezer) over the course of the week i had a ray of emotions. i weighed my pro's and cons of the situation at hand. I cried because i just knew they we're my match! Yet again I didn't want to put my emotions into everything and waited until my weekend was almost over with them. i also typed up a cute little note telling them how much i liked them and at the end it said "YES, I will be your baby momma!!!!" we all cried (except John...MEN!) We are now on the path to getting contracts written up and insurance bought. I am currently tracking my ovulation and we are hoping for a August Pregnancy!!! I do have to say it has been a rough couple of month. I was so ready to just give up and take a break. I am so thankful that they want ME as their baby momma! I couldn't be happier. I truly love my IP's, they will forever be in my heart!
Keep on looking for updates on how my journey is going.
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